Been casually dating the same guy for awhile and want to take things to the next level? Not sure what you want but want to figure things out together? The DTR (define the relationship) talk can be fun and exciting, but also scary. So, here are some suggestions to help thing go smoothly:
If you’re not sure where you want to take things, say so. Your guy will appreciate that you care enough to communicate and if they don’t, they aren’t worth it. Be honest to both your feeling and your mind. If things aren’t playing out the same way in both, grab a friend and try to talk out why your feelings and mind are conflicting, so when you’re talking with your man, you can express yourself honestly.
Maybe the idea of just dating someone for fun, or as a make-out buddy seems strange to you. Being open to new ideas is a great way to feel happy and comfortable within a relationship. Try something for a bit, if you you’re not happy, speak up.
Rejection is hurtful no matter who it comes from. But, if you try to look at it positively, then you can actually learn from such experiences. So, if someone doesn’t like your personality, find someone who does like you for who you are rather than making yourself into someone else.
Work on your relationship no matter what stage it’s at. Sometimes unexpected feelings, both good and bad, arise. When this happens, redefine your relationship in your own mind, then talk it out.
Everyone deserves to be in a healthy relationship. When you have been in both a healthy relationship and one that is bad for you, you will completely understand the difference. If you’re not getting back what you give into a relationship, talk it out. If nothing changes after this, it may be best to reconsider.
What Do You Think?
Do you girls have anymore suggestions of how to make the DTR talk go smoothly?